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Doing the work of a Faith Crisis.

What you are experiencing, your faith crisis, can be one of the hardest things you will go through in life.

I know this may seem extreme to your friends and family members who have not experienced this, but is is most likely what you are feeling.

This is your journey. 

You are feeling the real and raw effects of a major paradigm shift. 

Doing the work of a faith crisis involves creating new neural pathways in the brain.

Besides hurting your heart, it literally hurts your thinking too.

Amy 

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Why People Leave the Mormon Church ~ Faith Crisis Issues

 If you have experienced a Mormon Faith Crisis, you may have been asked the reason why you left the church. You may have not. 

Oddly enough, many family members and friends do not ask because it is easier to make up a reason, right?

Maybe they don't want to have their bubble burst about the church they love.

I guess that is fair.

But, I thought I would put together a video mentioning some of the reasons many of us leave.

Feel free to give me your reason(s) in the comments.

This list is by no means a comprehensive.

For most of us this is a very complicated issue.

This is a broad view of the many many reasons we come across when we start digging into church history/culture and start thinking beyond the correlated information we have been taught growing up in the church.

Please watch till the end, I have a special message for you.

You got this.

Amy

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Mormon Temple Veil Lifted ~ Post Mormon Life and Changes

Leaving your religion is very complex, no matter the religion.

I happen to be an exmormon and now I help others leaving their faith learn now to process this transition.

It is multi-layered, for sure.

Dealing with changes the church makes as it grows and progresses can bring up all sorts of feelings for us.

The Mormon church just changed a few things that happen in their temples. Women not needing to veil their faces is one of the changes. I will be talking about it here.

I know this is a sensitive topic.

I am treating it carefully and with respect even tho I show what the veil looks like.

The church itself shows images of the temple clothing and because women are not required to wear the temple veil in the temple I feel it is okay to talk about.

Do not watch if this topic brings up too much for you. Just know that I am speaking to the issue of change and women and the church.

At about minute 3:30 I start coaching a bit.

Ready to work with me? amyloganlife@gmail.com

~Amy

Faith Crisis Life Coaching on The Beach! Ex-Mormon and Ex other religions too!

 

Happy New Year my dear! I am so very happy to have a new year ahead of us. So much change in my life and that involves my Faith Crisis Life Coaching business and helping other post mormons along the journey to healing.

I am excited to announce something new that starts this month!

Free Group Coaching on the Beaches of California!

You MUST sign up for my Exclusive Content by adding your email in my sign up box, here on my site.

I will be emailing the options out to those on my list, so you better get signed up!

Here is a video explaining a little bit more about it.

Lots of love my friend!

Amy 

amyloganlife@gmail.com

My Faith Crisis & My Why

You Are Amazing! Soar My Dear.

 

Post Mormon. Exmormon. Ex religious. Life After Religion. Faith Crisis. Yes? I get it.

When I was hit upside the head with own personal faith crisis, I felt so alone.

I didn't know who I could talk to about my doubts. I was scared.

I started with my bishop and he told me that the doubts I was having were from satan. I left his office feeling even more boggled than when I walked in.

Satan? Really? Ugg. 

Yeah, this was not going to end well.

At this point, it was probably 2003/4 and I hadn't even started my deep dive into mormon history at this point, I just had "doubts."

2006 is when I jumped off the high dive, ALL IN.

There was no CES Letter at the time. I just started reading everything and anything I could get my hands on. I was on a mission to learn all I could about the church. I mean, it was true and so nothing that I read could really prove otherwise.

LOLOLOLOL (insert the BIGGEST eye roll here)

Yeah, you know what I mean.

I remember feeling more alone than I ever had before. I felt like an alien in my own home, my church, family, extended family, and with my friends.

I felt like people dismissed me, brushed off my thoughts and feelings and didn't take me as seriously. I felt marginalized when I did bring up what I was discovering and I would be told to pray harder, obey more, just have faith, and all these questions would be answered in the next life. yada yada yada.

No, that was NOT going to cut it.

I wanted to be taken seriously. I was being serious and my questions could not be answered.

No, I didn't want to go sin and drink and have sex and be wild. I was perfecting fine keeping all the commandments, covenants, life choices I made, all that I had been taught, if it was true. I was on a truth hunting mission. I wanted to know if the church was true. I was way beyond needing to read my scriptures more, pray more, have more faith. I had done that for 36 years.

Does this all sound familiar?

The whole reason I do what I do is that you know you are not alone.

I have walked this road, I felt all the pain. I know it is real and I will never marginalize you, make you feel crazy or dismiss anything you are feeling as you walk this path.

You are opening a door to the unknown and walking through it EVEN THO you are scared as hell.

You are not alone.

You are not crazy.

You ARE smart.

You ARE brave.

You ARE beyond amazing.

I am thankful our paths have crossed. When we meet, I know that we understand each other. 

I love when you ask if I am Soul Searching Girl (a reference to my early youtube videos.) We immediately understand each other. Our connection is real. We "get" each other.

I know you straight away and I love you.

Stand tall my dear. You have done nothing wrong. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You are following your own intuition. You are trusting yourself. You are one of the bravest people I know.

Thank you for showing up in my life.

Together, we got this.

I can't wait to walk this journey with you. Guide you for a few steps along the way.

I am always here.

Amy 

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Stuck in The Muck of Your Faith Crisis

The Muck

Be in the muck.

You kinda need to roll around in it and hang out there for awhile. Marinate. It is part of the process of this thing called a faith crisis. 

I expect nothing less. You just had your world bust right open. Of course you are going to feel all sorts of emotions.

We have been talking about this all month.

But, one step, I do not want you to skip, is being in this uncomfortable and painful place. The muck. It is part of it.

Let the tears fall.

Hide under the covers.

Be angry.

Sit with it.

Swear.

Laugh at the stupidity of it all.

Mourn the loss.

I promise, there will come a day when you are ready to not be in that mucky space anymore. The time will come when you are ready to stand up, dust off, and move forward.

Only you know when it is time.

In the meantime, allow all of the things I mentioned above.

This is what being gentle with yourself looks like.

Do not feel like you have to figure this out quickly. Think about how many years you were conditioned to believe this certain way. There is a good amount of unraveling that will need to be done. Let it unravel in its own time.

Then, you will rise like a phoenix. You will want to figure it out. You will want to heal. You will want to make it all make sense. You will want to move forward. You will want to do whatever it will take. You will want.

You will. I promise.

Until then, hunker down. Just be with your sadness.

And remember, you are loved. You are not alone.

Take a breath my dear, your life is just beginning.

Amy xo

 

Emotional Pain. Yours, Theirs, & "THE" Faith Crisis

Faith Crisis & Thoughts

You are going through something huge. A faith crisis is big. It is everything. Leaving your religion is very life shattering. It has rocked your world.

Your emotions are all over the place. You are feeling all the feels. Very deeply.

Part of what you are going through most likely includes worrying about how your decisions are affecting your family and friends, yes?

Listen, this is a hard one for some of us to understand. It has taken me awhile to get to this point.

You are not responsible for anyone else's thoughts and feelings.

You are having your own thoughts and feelings about what is going on with you and all you are discovering with and about your faith crisis.

You get to manage your own mind around all of these issues and so do your loved ones.

You get to move forward with your new way of thinking and so do your loved ones.

You are not in charge of how "they" will respond or react or experience emotions. Let them go through their own line of thinking, even if it does not align with yours.

You can let go of the feeling bad about how your decisions are "making them feel" because you cannot control that. THEY are responsible for how they feel.

You work on you. That is it.

When we grow up with a very specific religious frame work, part of that includes feelings of worthiness, being on the path, judgement, "being" a certain way and all of those things affect others, right? It is very much part of the conditioning you have gone through. 

What if, you could put down the burden of carrying around how everyone else is going to think about this?

Read that sentence again. What if?

As we have discussed before, those in your life will have lots of thoughts and opinions about what you are doing. Let them. But also do not let it keep you stifled. 

Work on managing your own thoughts and feelings. Let the rest go. 

Easier said than done, you are thinking?

Yes, this is why you practice.

Creating new thoughts, that you can believe, take practice.

When you believe the thought, "I am not responsible for how others feel" you will begin to feel better about what you are going through.

This is the magical work of coaching. We will work on this. We will practice.

Of course, we will dive deep into what you are going through specifically, but do you see where I am going with this?

Can you be be open to thinking the thought...

"I am not responsible for how others feel about my decision to leave the church."

Feel the freedom you will feel when you truly believe that thought.

You got this.

I will walk it with you.

Amy 

amyloganlife@gmail.com

My Light Bulb Moment & My Faith Crisis

Light Bulb Moments & Your Faith Crisis

Years ago, I had a light bulb moment. I would love to share it with you.

When I first started down my faith crisis induced studying, I felt like I should hide my new discoveries, in fear of offending one of my mormon friends or family members. 

Afraid that someone who knew me when I was VERY active and "all in" with my belief in the mormon church, would see something I was reading in public or a comment I would leave on Facebook, and be upset.

{{{ Fear of what others maybe thinking of you is a thing, right? I LOVE coaching you through ways of getting a handle on that. it is totally possible. }}}

Then one day, I decided to look at it differently.

What if it was helpful for someone to see what I was reading and my thoughts about it?

Maybe my journey and my discoveries could help someone else. 

Maybe being visible in my new way of life and thinking is what I should be doing, instead of feeling like I had to hide it.

It was such a fun way to look at what I was going through. I knew I couldn't be the only one feeling all these things.

The same goes for you too. You may not need to put yourself out there in a huge visible way, but just knowing that someone in your circle may love knowing what you are going through, can be life changing.

Imagine that!

When you lean into your new authentic self, you will be amazed at all the light bulb moments you will have. They are coming! Keep at it.

I am excited for you! You may not feel that same excitement yet, but it is coming.

Amy

amyloganlife@gmail.com

Your Future Self & Your Faith Crisis

Your Future Self & Your Faith Crisis

 

You have been at this faith crisis thing for awhile now. You have learned so many things, about yourself, about the church and religion at large.

You have wept many tears.

You have changed your world view.

You have gained a new beautiful inner strength. (even if you don't feel it all the time)

You have leaned into your new voice.

You are becoming your most authentic self.

It is suddenly a year from today, November 10th, 2019.

What would you say to to your future self? 

What advice would you give her? What would you say to the you of today?

What would a person who has already figured how to navigate this path you are on right now, tell you to do? 

Write it down. Talk to yourself in real time. What would you tell her?

Now, really, do this. Not in your head. Open up your journal, or a new blank file on your computer and write it all out. Get it out so you can see it. 

Then, tell me about it. What came up for you? I would love to hear it.

Amy

amyloganlife@gmail.com

 

Ready To Not Be So Triggered? Triggers & Your Faith Crisis

Triggers.

Seems like everyone is triggered these days. Yeah?

You will most likely get to a point, along your faith crisis journey, where you are tired of being triggered all the time.

This is where your faith crisis transitions over to whatever you want it to be, sans the crisis part.

I work with my clients on this very topic. It is common. Just like anything else in life, we have to find ways to move forward, so we are not feeling triggered all the time.

This is very freeing!

When you are ready, shoot me an email and we can work together.

amyloganlife@gmail.com

More soon!

Amy xo